Sometimes I get tired of being the strong and understanding person, the one who everyone comes to for advice. I’m not saying i’d rather they don’t however it has appeared that I have always been people’s ‘go to’ person but I cannot say that I’ve gotten the same energy back. I love my people, and i’ll always be their biggest supporters however playing that role has led me to abandoning my own needs n putting others first which has caused me so much emotional suffering n messed with my mental health. 

Just cause your ‘strong’ friend or the person you go to never complains doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be considerate and thoughtful. Nit always getting back the same energy or effort i’ve given has led me to realize that I need to put myself first cause people are selfish and will take as much as you let them. Does it hurt to go through that? Of course but it never stops me from doing what’s necessary to protect myself no matter how difficult the situation is. 

Don’t forget to take care of yourself in your quest to help others. And if you’re a person that’s always taking from others, have some compassion and be considerate that those whom you take from too are human and deserve that love and energy back. 

“Other people’s comfort shouldn’t really be a priority if it involves you consistently ignoring your needs.”